UPDATE DECEMBER 18

 

Only 6 more days to shop;  some of us are finished; don’t fight the lines unless you absolutely know what they want; if you’re still struggling, give them cash or gift certificates and let them fight the lines; they’re going to take back any clothing you give them anyhow – and they’re going to the stores regardless; my father said it’s the same gene you find in homing pigeons and lemmings; they can’t help themselves.  In 50 years of marriage, he never went shopping with my mother.

 

COMMITMENTS

Casey Gibson, P,SS, FL Tropic Wave, signed with Webber International University

 

USA WOMEN’S TOUR SCHEDULE

USA Softball has now provided a more detailed schedule for the USA Women’s National Team, as it prepares for the 2004 Olympics in Athens .  This schedule is more detailed than the release by USA Softball which SPY published several weeks ago – which also contained brief bios on each player.  (See separate story)

 

A STORY APPROPRIATE TO THE TIMES

Tonight, Tom Brokaw closed off with an admonition to all those people going to Christmas parties – and drinking and driving.  So, it seems timely to remind our young people, whether they drink or not, to slow down.  While considering that thought, I found this email from reader Patricia Hale on my computer.  Worth reading.

 

Jack took a long look at his speedometer before slowing down: 73 in a 55 zone. Fourth time in as many months. How could a guy get caught so often?  When his car had slowed to 10 miles an hour, Jack pulled over, but only partially. Let the cop worry 
about the potential traffic hazard. Maybe some other car will tweak his backside with a mirror. The cop was stepping out of his car, the big pad in hand.  Bob? Bob from Church? Jack sunk farther into his trench coat. This was worse than the coming ticket. 
A cop catching a guy from his own church. A guy who happened to be a little eager to get home after a long day at the office. A guy he was about to play golf with tomorrow. 
Jumping out of the car, he approached a man he saw every Sunday, a man he'd never seen in uniform.  "Hi, Bob. Fancy meeting you like this."  "Hello, Jack." No smile. 
"Guess you caught me red-handed in a rush to see my wife and kids."  "Yeah, I guess." Bob seemed uncertain. Good.  "I've seen some long days at the office lately. I'm afraid I bent the rules a bit -just this once."  Jack toed at a pebble on the pavement. "Diane said something about roast beef and potatoes tonight.  Know what I mean?"  "I know what you mean. I also know that you have a reputation in our precinct." Ouch. This was not going in the right direction. Time to change tactics.  "What'd you clock me at?" 
"Seventy. Would you sit back in your car please?"  "Now wait a minute here, Bob. I checked as soon as I saw you. I was barely nudging 65." The lie seemed to come easier with every ticket.  "Please, Jack, in the car."  Flustered, Jack hunched himself through the still-open door. Slamming it shut, he stared at the dashboard. He was in no rush to open the window.  The minutes ticked by. Bob scribbled away on the pad.  Why hadn't he asked for a driver's license?  Whatever the reason, it would be a month of Sundays 
before Jack ever sat near this cop again. A tap on the door jerked his head to the left. There was Bob, a folded paper in hand Jack rolled down the window a mere two inches, just enough room for Bob to pass him the slip.  "Thanks." Jack could not quite keep the sneer out of his voice.  Bob returned to his police car without a word. Jack watched his retreat in the mirror. Jack unfolded the sheet of paper. How much was this one going to cost?  Wait a  minute. What was this? Some kind of joke?  Certainly not a ticket. Jack began to read:  "Dear Jack, Once upon a time I had a daughter. She was six when she was
killed by a car. You guessed it-a speeding driver. A fine and three months in jail, and the man was free. Free! to hug his daughters All three of them. I only had one, and I'm going to have to wait until Heaven before I can ever hug her again. A thousand times I've tried to forgive that man. A thousand times I thought I had. Maybe I did, but I need to do it again. Even now. Pray for me. And be careful, Jack, my son is all I have left."  "Bob" 

Jack turned around in time to see Bob's car pull away and head down the road. Jack watched until it disappeared. A full 15 minutes later, he too, pulled away and drove slowly home, praying for forgiveness and hugging a surprised wife and kids when he arrived.  

Life is precious. Handle with care. This is an important message; please pass it along to your friends. Drive safely and carefully. Remember, cars are not the only things recalled by their maker. 

Funny how you can send a thousand jokes' through e-mail and they spread like wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding the sanctity of life, people think twice about sharing. 

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 
 
May today there be peace within you. May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.  "I believe that friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly." 
 

THE MOST LONELY VIGIL

Young people think they are invincible.  Their parents know they are not.  For every girl or boy rushing down the road, there is a parent who doesn’t sleep until they are safe at home.  Goes with the turf.  The most unnatural act of all, Rose Kennedy once said, is to bury your young.  Tonight, a reader asked why I publish these stories, like the two girls killed this past week.  The simple answer is that I know the pain.  My brother Phillip and I were hell raisers.  I was learning to fly when my contemporaries were trying to distinguish between the clutch and brake pedals.  My father was overwhelmed, I was later told, when he heard that men had taken bets on whether I would live to 21.  He was so afraid I would have a serious accident, and one night I did – a drunk hit the Jeepster head-on and I sailed through the canvas top.  I was also told later that the sheriff, my father’s close friend, vowed the sot would never leave the drunk tank alive if I died.  I got the usual lectures, particularly after one spectacular speeding incident.  But, it didn’t change my lifestyle very much.  He also feared my adult lifestyle, but I didn’t know that until he died.  I used to call him before I would leave the country, and when I returned, because we were close.  When he passed away, a US Marshal who had grown up with him told me that my father worried every night during my teenage years, and worried the minute I left the country until I returned.  We lost my little brother to war.  I never thought of Phillip or me as particularly brave, but neither of us worried very much about sailing in harm’s way, and both lived high risk lives.  But, now, in the September of my years, with children of my own, I can relate to the root cause of his fears.  My sister and I both got those calls.  Angelyn walked into a hospital and saw her son’s clothing on a chair, and knew that Scotty was dead.  I walked into a hospital in Virginia , and saw my son’s motorcycle helmet, bloody and cracked down the middle; someone had tossed it on a gurney.  I ran into the OR and the doctors yelled at me to leave, but, my son, still conscious, told them it was okay, he was sure I wouldn’t cry while they operated.  He recovered, but I learned more surely than ever the value of life.  In the last 20 years, I’ve wished a thousand times I could have had one more moment with my father – to apologize for causing him so much worry and mental anguish.  I wouldn’t have changed my lifestyle, but I would have let him know that I understood.

 

MORE ON RECRUITING

A Parenting Lesson.  I truly enjoyed reading the articles regarding college recruitment and the pushing that goes on between parents and coaches. As a parent/coach, I pushed my daughter from an early age to become a pitcher in order to obtain the elusive college scholarship. We went the standard route, she played 18 A at 14, proceeded to Gold with a domineering Gold coach, hit the exposure tournaments, in short: my daughter did everything that was asked of her. When she was a junior in high school, her Mom, not a big softball supporter, took her on a visit to the University of (blank), upon which my daughter became enamored of. Needless to say, when we started getting calls from other schools, the look on my daughters face at the prospect of having to go to a school which was not her first choice was disturbing. She had sent a skills tape to (blank), but the coach left and the new coach had other players in mind. Knowing that she would not play in (blank), she decided that was want she wanted to do and it was the best thing for her.It was tough on me, but after all she did I could not force her to go to a school she was not going to enjoy just because of softball. I think I learned too late that the important thing was going to college, not getting caught up in getting recruited at the expense of our children's happiness.

 

YOU CAN’T AFFORD TO LIVE TO 2030

And the children you have now had better start working two jobs.

 

Economists predict that, in the year 2030:

n      a ticket to a baseball game will cost $146

n      today’s $50 bag of groceries will cost $111

n      your $140 prescription drug bill will cost $979

n      dinner and a movie will rock you for $130

n      a $21,000 Camry will cost $34,000

n      a $200,000 house today will cost $1 million

 

And, so on.  On the other hand, my two Redskins season tickets cost $160 four years ago; next year, those same two tickets go up to $420 per game.  There were three games this year I couldn’t sell, and no takers yet for next year.  Big salaries are a factor; the huge payroll for non-playing personnel is a factor; but the biggest problem is that little ego maniac who owns the team and his lavish life style.  And, it’s a lousy team.

 

OTTO, YOU DESERVED BETTER

Along with Johnny Unitas and Joe Montana, Otto Graham was chosen one of the quarterbacks on the honorary team named by the NFL on its 75th anniversary.  And, deservedly so.  Graham led the Cleveland Browns to the championship game in each of his 10 years – and won the title 7 times.  I was appalled that the TV reports showed Otto as a man of 82 – shrunken, aged, and all that.  Even the Washington Post ran that picture, although it did run a grainy photo of Otto scurrying into the end zone.  Who rated him the best?  Other pro quarterbacks of his day like Sammy Baugh.

 

OUR CHANGING MORES

Jeanne Crain died this past week, and more than one generation of movie goers have matured since she last worked.  Her most memorable role: Pinky.  Jeanne played a young woman who was of mixed parentage, ie, black and white, or what some used to call a mulatto.  Daring role for those days, and Jeanne took some criticism.  There were still states which had laws against miscegenation.  Sadly, more than one black man was beaten or even killed for daring to consort with a white woman.

 

Now, we learn that Strom Thurmond impregnated a colored servant girl – and lo these many years, he financially supported Ms. Williams who kept his secret.  One of the stalwarts of the Old South, whose constituents would have sworn he was a segregationist to his core.  Turns out old Strom had a gentle streak beneath all that oratory.

 

But, he liked the ladies.  Still siring children late in life, at an age when a lot of men look forward to just having a good bowel movement.

 

My reaction as a scion of the old South?  I sent a message to a close friend in South Carolina , and urged him to go out to that farm where Strom had lived all of his life, and fill a bottle with water from Strom’s well.  Old Strom found the elixir of life.

  Spy Softball Home Page